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Books

the best books i've read for codependent recovery

An Adult Child's Guide to What's 'Normal'

by John Friel and Linda D. Friel

Short, easy to read chapters with vivid imagery and real life examples.

Bold Love

by Dan B Allender and Tremper Longman

Exposes the truth that tough love is the only real love there is.

Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Essential guide to appropriate boundaries for healthy relationships.

Changes That Heal

by Henry Cloud

Provides healing fundamentals about grace, truth and time. I believe this book is the best starting point for recovery reading.

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

by Melody Beattie

Full of everyday examples to help you identify and stop your codependence.

Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller

Amazingly articulate break down of codependence into five core symptoms.

How People Grow: What the Bible Reveals About Personal Growth

by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Awesome bird's eye view of the process of transformation.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

Best parenting book on the planet.

Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man: Coping with Hidden Aggression - From the Bedroom to the Boardroom

by Scott Wetzler

For those who have endured this type of life, this book lets you know you are not alone and it puts into words what made you feel crazy for years.

Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive: 10th Anniversary Edition

by Daniel J. Siegel and Mary Hartzell

Emphasizes the importance of understanding your own personal narrative.

Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Basics of what to look for in safe people and why we haven't done that before.

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope

by Leslie Vernick

Eye-opening and incredibly freeing for those who have been emotionally abused.

The Secret Life of Pronouns: What Our Words Say About Us

by James W. Pennebaker

Exposes how we avoid intimacy with something as simple as our pronouns.

WAIT AND SEE: FINDING PEACE IN GOD'S PAUSES AND PLANS

by Wendy Pope

Applies real life examples and powerful excerpts from the life of David on how to wait well.

WHEN PEOPLE ARE BIG AND GOD IS SMALL: OVERCOMING PEER PRESSURE, CODEPENDENCY, AND THE FEAR OF MAN (RESOURCES FOR CHANGING LIVES)

by Edward T. Welch

Calls out codependence for what it really is...idolatry and fear of man.

WHY DOES HE DO THAT?: INSIDE THE MINDS OF ANGRY AND CONTROLLING MEN

by Lundy Bancroft

Major eye-opener: Abusers and controllers don't leave. You have to leave them.

WHY LOVE MATTERS: HOW AFFECTION SHAPES A BABY'S BRAIN

by Sue Gerhardt

Pouring on the love from day one of a baby's life can have a powerful generational impact for good.

WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO: A STEP-BY-STEP PROGRAM TO SELECT A BETTER PARTNER OR IMPROVE THE RELATIONSHIP YOU'RE ALREADY IN (PSYCHOGENETICS SYSTEM)

by Anne Teachworth

Demystifies the reality of your relationship choices.